Category Archives: Family

Happy New Year!

Happy New Year!
Happy New Year!

So it has been a while.  Things have been moving at light speed and does not look like it is going to slow down!

I just wanted to say happy New Year! And that there new things that are going to be happening!

I hope you are able to achieve your goals this year!

Until next time, Steph.

Ten Ways to be a Horrible Stay at Home Parent

Ten Ways to be a Horrible Stay at Home Parent

Being a stay at home parent is a challenge. No ands, ifs, or butts about it.  Doesn’t matter if you are a male or female, either way you look at it, you’ll be doing it wrong. So, let’s cut to the chase and go over the ten reasons why you are a horrible stay at home parent.

  1. You’re female.

    Just because you gave birth to the tiny army that you are now watching over, doesn’t mean you should be watching those little monsters. Why stay home and make your husband go out into the world and work hard for you and those children that came out of you? How could you do that to him? Now he has to go out and work all by himself. He gets to have singular thoughts and is able to work on one task at a time without little voices reminding him they haven’t eaten in five minutes. How dare you make him be an adult?

  2. You’re male.

    Just because you donated some sperm, doesn’t mean you should be able to take it easy! You are the man, the leader of your little home made army. Men are supposed to be out there making money and bringing home the bacon – not cooking it.  Women can’t make more money than you and then make you become the house bitch. Don’t you know that doing the dishes is a woman’s job?

  3. You stay home.

    What are you doing? You are supposed to be out there making money dealing with other adults trying to make money as well. Why would you want to be at home? You have bills to pay. And you have to pay childcare bills. So, get to work to bring home like 60 extra bucks each paycheck!

  4. Your house isn’t spotless.

    You are home all day, why is your house so dirty and cluttered?  You are home all day. The reason you are home all day is to take care of the house. To take care of the house, you need to keep it clean! That is your job. Your house looks like it could be on Hoarders! Get to work.

  5. Your house is spotless.

    Why is your house so clean? You have children at home that need your attention. Why are you so focused on having a clean house? Children make messes. Just make sure your house doesn’t look like a house on Hoarders!

  6. You haven’t been on Facebook

    . Didn’t you see that Tammy Sue is having a jewelry party this Friday? Did you see that Mark Zuckerberg is donating a crazy amount of money to something? Did you see what she posted?

  7. You have been on Facebook.

     I can’t believe you have been on your phone!  You need to focus on your children and get that house clean. In my time, we didn’t have phones to distract us.  You don’t have time to play on Facebook.  Now get focused on your children and off your phone.
  8. You haven’t posted about your children.

     Are they still alive? What are they wearing?  Do you still have children? Why don’t you share more about them?

  9. You have posted about your children.

     Don’t you think you post enough pictures of your children?  That is all you post about!  Aren’t you worried that those pictures are going to get into the wrong hands?  We don’t need to know everything they do.  Don’t you have other things to do?

  10. You are worried about what others think about you and the choices you make for your family.

      This is the biggest mistake I have seen with so many people.  They worry about what other people think and over stress themselves about what they think needs to be done for you and your children.  Are they in your shoes and do they handle the day to day business for your family?  What bills are they paying?  I am going to go out on a limb and say no, they aren’t paying any bills for you or handling any of you business.  Either way, as long as your children are healthy, feed and as happy as they can be, you are doing a great job.

Life with children is difficult.  No two children are the same – even within the same household.  There is no cookie cutter plan for every family.  Do your best, be better than you were yesterday and remember that no one is perfect! Stop listening to all the ‘you shoulds’ and enjoy the short time you have with your children the best way YOU see fit!

 

– Until next time

Fall is here…

Fall is here…
Fall is here…

Fall is here. It is one of my favorite time of year. Things get back to a normal routine and normal patterns return. The leaves start to turn colors and it shows that there can be beauty in death. Anyway….

Fall has come back around and for some reason, this year it feels much more amazing. Why might you ask? Well, let’s write a list. (I just love lists!)

  • First off, it’s not ungodly hot and I do not feel like I am going to melt. Even in my air conditioned house, it still was hot as hell out there this summer!  Also, bugs go back to hell, where they belong!
  • Second, my baby is going to be two years old this Sunday! Where the hell did the time go?
  • Third, my other baby (I had another one in June) is three months old and nursing is going very well with her!
  • Fourth, postpartum depression hasn’t hit me yet with my second one like it did with my first one!
  • Fifth, I enrolled back into school. I’m going for my associate’s degree in business with a focus in accounting. So far in both my classes I have an average of 97%! So school is going well.
  • Sixth, I start a tax preparer class on Tuesday. I’m nervous and excited at the same time!  It’s going to be a challenge but I am up for it.
  • Seventh, NaNoWriMo starts in almost seven weeks from now! I am so excited for this! I’m the ML again this year!

So overall, things are looking up. I look forward to the future at the moment. I hope you guys follow along and enjoy the future with me!

So, tell me, do you guys enjoy the fall season? Please, tell me!  Sound off in the comments!

Happy Birthday – TO ME!

Happy Birthday – TO ME!
Happy Birthday – TO ME!

Today is my birthday!  I just thought I would share! I’m a big 26! 🙂

So if you want to do something nice for me on my birthday, share my blog and tell your freidns to check me out!  It would make my day!

I’ll be back soon with lots of new stuff so please keep your eyes open!  (I know I have said this before but I promise I have lots of good stuff!)  🙂

So, happy birthday to me!

Until next time!

Halloween Love

Halloween Love

For those who might not know, I love Halloween!  I know, it’s totally a ‘white girl thing’ but I just love Halloween! 🙂 So, I thought that I would share a few pictures of some of my Halloween stuff! 🙂  This is just the tip of the iceberg! So enjoy!

wpid-20151004_200653.jpg My blow up guys!  🙂

wpid-20151004_224315.jpg Candy Corn lights! 🙂

wpid-20151004_224224.jpg  They are watching you! 🙂

wpid-20151004_224156.jpg This is inside of the wall of my Writing Corner.

There will be more as we get closer to Halloween but for now, I thought I would share! 🙂

Until next time..

Happy birthday baby girl!

Happy birthday baby girl!
Happy birthday baby girl!

I want to wish you a very happy birthday my little one!

wpid-20140925_234754.jpg The very first picture I have of you! You weren’t very happy about it at all.

I will admit it wasn’t ‘love at first sight.’  I was terrified.  I just had surgery and I was still a little groggy. I realized that you are now my responsibility.  THat scared me.

wpid-wp-1443148645918.jpeg I was so worried!  I didn’t know what to do.  I didn’t want to screw you up.  You were so small (okay, not that small.  You came in at over nine pounds!) and perfect.

The first few days were hard.  I didn’t want to break you or hurt you in any other way.  But it was during the first few days that I realized that I loved you.  The pain was a lot to handle but your snuggles helped (they didn’t fix everything but made me feel better.) 🙂

wpid-20141122_201135.jpg You were so active! Some days I didn’t know if I could keep up with you!  Where did you get all that energy?

wpid-20141202_142106.jpg It was a lot of fun learned how to get you dressed and playing dress up with you!

wpid-20150331_175737.jpg You sometimes were just so beautiful I forgot to breathe! 🙂  I am amazed on how perfect you are!   How did you become so perfect?

wpid-20150917_210422.jpg wpid-20150923_110835.jpg  Now look at you!  You are just so beautiful!  I am so lucky to be your mom.  Thank you Serenity.  You taught me so much within the last year.  I hope for many. many. many more!

I listened to you breathe as you slept.  It’s such calming sound.  I can’t believe that when you wake in the morning, you will be a year old!  (But you won’t be official until 8:46pm CST)

I just want to thank you and all that you do.  You have pushed me (and my buttons a few times) but without you, I won’t have even know where my limits are! Without you, I wouldn’t push myself to achieve so much!

Dear Serenity, reach for the moon!  Even if you miss, you will land among stars! 🙂

I just want you to know what all that I do it for you and I love you more that words can say. I don’t want you to follow in my footsteps. I want you to take the path next to me and go further than I could have ever dreamed possible.

I love you Serenity!

Until next time…

*I won’t be around much to day, so if you need me, you can email at info@stephwenburg.com but I won’t see it until Saturday! 🙂

An Ode to my husband

An Ode to my husband

Today, my husband and I were talking about what he was planning on doing for his week vacation.  It just occurred to me that he has never been home for a week with our daughter.  He has always gotten up and went to work.  I just wanted to share my appreciation for him. 🙂
So I decided to create a simple and easy ode for him. 😀

Thank you!
Thank you for all the hard work you do.
Thank you for loving us so much!
Thank you!

That is all.

Until next time…

Dear Serenity. A letter to my daughter

Dear Serenity. A letter to my daughter

Right now as I right this you are playing with your toys, screaming on the top of your lungs. As I type this, you area asleep in your crib, dreaming the afternoon away.  As I type this, I have a few tears rolling off my cheeks.

I know you won’t be able to read this until you are older, but that is fine.  I am writing this eight days before your first birthday.  You have grown up too fast!  Everyone warned me that it was going to happen that way!

I hope this letter finds you well and that life finds you well.  Maybe you have more siblings, maybe you don’t.  I don’t know exactly how your life will be when you are reading this but I hope it’s the best that it can possible be.  I hope that I have been a great source of help to you! (And of course your Daddy too!) 🙂

I really want to tell you that I love you dearly and I want the best for you.  Even through you might not always agree; like when I slapped your hands way from the hot stove or when you try to climb into the trash can.  I know you wonder what I am doing at the computer or what I am doing while I scribble in one of my many binders.  I am working hard, just for you! Well, not directly for you but I am trying to achieve my dreams so you don’t have to struggle as hard or as long as I have!

I hope you will grow up to understand that if you want something in life, you have to work hard for it.  Please don’t ever try to talk the easy way out.  It will hurt you more than anything.  If you need help, just ask; I promise we will never just leave you hanging.  We will be here for you.

I hope I have installed the love of books, words and writing.  I just hope it’s not for the same reasons I came to love them.  You will learn so much from reading other works of arts and I hope I taught you that reading is fun!

I hope you understand why I cried as I washed your bottles for the last time today.

I hope you understand why my cheeks were wet well we kiss attacked each other.

I hope you understand why sometimes I can’t finish playing ‘patty cake patty cake’ with you.

I hope you understand why sometimes I stand in the doorway of your room while you sleep and count your breaths.

I hope you that I am still there when you read this and I am able to give you a hug and tell you once more, “I love you.”

Love,
Mommy

Family Matters

Family Matters

So I has based this post off a conversation I have with tlizzy on her post DAY 9: BLOGGING 101; GET INSPIRED BY THE NEIGHBOURS.

As a few of may have guessed, I do not have much of a relationship with my mother.  She often told be as I was growing up and she didn’t want me because I’m a girl.  She only wanted my brother.  On top of that, she often tried to leave me places and tried to change the locks (only to fail since she was too lazy to get it right.)  I haven’t said much about my father since, it’s a bit of a sore subject.  Let me explain.

My father left when I was three.  My brother and I had every other weekend visits with him until I was twelve.  It actually my favorite time since my step-mum was goofy but so nice and sweet.  A totally different woman than my mother.  We would paint and draw and play outside, all depending how my father was feeling. He was in Vietnam and had PTSD.  Little things would tick him off and often it cam out on my or my brother (or my step-mum or siblings).  We had to walk on eggshells around him.  I’m not going to lie, I was his favorite and I got to stay and watch Star Trek when I was with him.

Then we stopped seeing him when I was twelve; his car broke down, his relationship with my step-mum crashed and burned and then two years later he moved to Florida.   I never really got close to him.  And I struggled with that for most of my life.  I had two parents who had their own problems and I was forgotten in the mix.  This made my teenage years difficult.  (There were other problems too but I will hold back on that stuff here).

As I got older, I started to realize that life was not going to be easy for me and that I can’t just sit in self pity.  If I wanted life to be worth something, I needed to break away from the jealously and anger I had for life and I had to make it better.

I lost my father this past July.  We hadn’t spoke for over a year before that.  I felt so guilty about it but I knew my father,  He had stopped talking to me in his own way of protecting me.  He didn’t want me to know how sick he was.  I still struggle with it but I know that now he is at peace and isn’t fighting the world.  So I can take peace in that.

Also, I got to connect with my grandmother and aunt who I really never knew.  So that is another win, if you view it that way.  It is so great to get to know them.

The biggest thing for me as I raise my daughter is to make sure she knows that she is loved – even if I can’t always tell her.  I grew up with parents who had other things on their plates (for my father) I’m not mad.  Now that I am an adult, I understand that his part he tried. He wasn’t perfect.  But I am glad for those times of shinning brightness that broke through the clouds of my childhood.  I don’t want my daughter to miss those bright spots.  So I am going to try my best to show her the brightness!

So, enough with the past, now on to the future and meeting new people! 🙂

Until next time…

Boredom with some many things to do!

Boredom with some many things to do!

Have you ever been bored to tears and had a long list of things to do?  Oh boy, I have that right now!   So, here my luandry list of things to do:

  • Dishes
  • Clean house
  • Bring dog to vet for yearly check up
  • Get daughter ready to go to Vet
  • Work on blog posts for the month
  • WRITE
  • Read
  • Schedule hair cut
  • Balance checkbook
  • Get gas for Van
  • WRITE
  • Prepare for tomorrow’s shopping trip
  • Do stuff in general.

I have plenty of stuff to do but not one once of energy to do anything.  I don’t even have energy to watch TV!  Help!

Oh well, off to at least get the dog and kid ready to go! Wish me luck!  🙂