Personal goals

This post may be on the duller side of things since I am currently working on in my day-to-day life.  As you may know, I am a first time stay at home mother with a four month old.  Things are known to change at the last moment.  Let’s keep it short and sweet.

One major area of my life I need to work on is my schooling.  I have a diploma in nursing but I have decided not to be come a nurse.  I love to help people and I love the science part as well.  I sadly have cold shoulder when it comes to working with others and it often doesn’t help much.  I don’t mean to be shy but to some people, this comes across as stand off-ish.  In the nursing world, it does not help being and reserved.  So after about a year of trying to find what I want to do in life, I think I would like to get into the finance world.  I would love to become an account or a bookkeeper.  Or maybe even a banker.  I think that it would be a wonderful thing to help people with their money.  Still haven’t iron this all out but My next goal in school is to go for my bookkeeping certificate this fall.  Then I’ll from there if I really like it and stuff.  In the meanwhile, I am going to read about bookkeeping and accounting.  That way I’ll get some head knowledge in and it might actually help me!

My other personal goal this year is to buy a house this year.  To be honest, no one I know have bought a house in the last ten years so this a whole new world for us.  I luck out and my cousin is pretty damn good at some things and he is willing to help us.  So for that, I am trying to learn as much as I can about mortgages, house donas, rates and so much more. So I have been reading a few books about the topic and I hope to learn more about it as I go.

Another goal of mine is all about self improvement. On my phone I have a few apps that me do that.  I have one that helps me with my Spanish and the other one is about html.  Hopefully in six months I will have a basic Spanish vocabulary so I can speak with others!  And at the same time I would love to have a a wonderful working level of knowledge of HTML.  So they are kinda like “my hobby” goals but I work on them in my spare time.

I have a few other goals that I may share at a later date, but I think I have revealed enough about my goals.  Just be on the look out, I’m going to start posting some really amazing stuff!  Thank you so much for joining this journey.

-Steph

Goals for my writing

For the next set of blogs about my goals are going to be a little less blabbing and more meat. So, enjoy!

This is going to be really vague since I’m still trying to figure this one out for the long run.  My over all goal is to at least write for an hour three times a week.  On top of that, I am going to be blogging at least three times a week as well.  So that brings me up to five times a week.  At the moment I do not have any project planned or in mind. I have several started and a few in my head.  For someone else, this might be a huge lack of direction, but for me, this leaves me open!  Goal writing is all about getting to the meat of the what you want to achieve!

So here are a few things I would like to do with writing : I would like to get in the habit of writing for at least one hour a day.  I am hoping for free writing and some creative writing to be done during this time.  Also, I really want to create amazing content for my blog.  That involves writing as well and it is more of a specific kind of writing.  Also, for my blog and my writing, I am thinking of bringing back my “Writings Wednesdays”.  That was when I shared a piece of my creative writing with my blog followers.  I am thinking of getting that started in February.  It’s going to take some time to get all this stuff done and get the ball rolling.  But with enough will power I think I can achieve anything I put my mind to!

I also would love to write blog posts about apps I have found to be amazing, ways to save, useful things and many other topics like that. It seems to be a lot at once but slowly I will get there!    

So this goal might not be as specific or as measurable as some of my other goals but it is a great start to getting my writing on track.  Once I get the ball rolling, I am going to revisit this in six months and really get this off the ground.  Just sit back and enjoy the ride!  🙂

-Steph

Currently a work in progress!

Self improvement never happens over night.   So many people want the quick and easy solution for EVERYTHING!  That’s why weight loss, smoking cession, writing the next great American novel and so many other things never seem to happen.  It’s quite a sad state of affairs.

When I make a goal, I know that it will not happen overnight.  It won’t even happen within the week or month.  It will take time, weeks, months, and even years to happen.  It has taken a long time for me to realize this fact.  I hope that everyone out there who is reading this, realizes this too!

So, I am just going to kinda list the few goals I have for my life and the next year.  Then, throughout the next two weeks I am going to go into more detail about each one in a different blog post.  I am currently working on a lot of things to work on myself.

The first thing I am going to chit chat about is my goals for this blog.  I posted earlier this year that I really want this blog to be able my struggles with depression and all the many parts of life (being a mother, being a wife, being a blogger, being a writer, being a learner and so on and so on.)  I want this to be an outlet for me but a place where other people can learn from what I have done and tried.  I also want this blog to be a chronicle of sorts about my life and how I got to be where I am.  My one day goal is to be a published author; but, that doesn’t happen over night.  This will be my story about life.

The other thing I am working on is improving my writing.  I am currently working on blogging (this!) and working on writing more on a daily basis.  This is going to be one the hardest things to achieve since I am a full time mommy and full time wife.  I will find a way to achieve this.  It will take a lot of bouncing but I will get this done one day!  This will have to be taken with baby steps!

Another thing I am currently working on is getting into bookkeeping.  I know this sounds VERY weird for someone who dreams about becoming an author to take such a very uncreative career choice but for some odd reason, I have really taken a liking to it.  There is something about it that just seems to click with me so I am currently reading some books about the topic and I am looking into going to school (or taking a few classes) about it!  I’ll keep ya posted on it!

On top of all this, my husband and I are currently looking to buy our first house.  It is a very long process and there are so many steps to go through!  We are at the very first steps of the whole process and it is looking pretty exciting!

Overall, one of my main missions is to work on improving myself. I have been working on learning Spanish (I have an app on my phone).  I have have been trying to work on learning on HTML (which again I have an app for that).  I also have been talking free online classes about personal finances, bookkeeping and a few other things.  I’m slightly addicted to learning new things!

Okay, so that seems to be enough rambling from me!  I hope you enjoy this!  Please leave your comments below!  I would love to hear from you!  Be on the look out for more blogs in the upcoming future about things!

My New Year Resolutions!

2013 has been one hell of a year and my only hope for myself and for my family and friends, is it will be one of the best years to come! I’m hoping for bigger and better things but to do that, I have to get my butt in gear (and in the chair). So here is my goal statement for this year. Let’s see if I can do it!
One of the biggest things I want to achieve is getting into the habit of writing everyday a minimal of 2000 words. These do not have to be for a current project but it has to be words that are typed (or hand written). This is just to build the habit of writing daily. It takes 30 days to build a habit, why not make it a good habit?
My current goals for my current project ‘Memory’ are as follows: I have set up a tentative deadline for when I want the drafts to be done. The overall word count goal is 50,000 words. It’s on the smaller size but I think that is an attainable goal. You never know, maybe I’ll surpass it! Here is the breakdown of the goal deadlines: the first draft I want it to be done by March 31 2014. Then I will edit and rewrite for the second draft; the goal for that is to be done by June 30th 2014. My goal is to have my third draft completed by October 2014. I will have a few beta readers read it and give feedback for it (applications are open!). During the time of October, I will be deep in researching for agents and/or publishers to send my manuscript to and finalize who I’m sending it to! Hopefully, I will have a finished manuscript by the end of the month and will have it sent out before November rolls around! I am going to have it sent by this time next year! 
Also, I will try my hand at NaNoWriMo this year but I will work out the details out when it gets closer. I will have to come up with an idea and have it all plotted out by before November rolls around. Trust me, I’ll keep you guys posted on that.
Also, as any good writer knows, reading is an important part of writing. My goal is to be able to finish and read one novel a month. Working full time and my aggressive deadline schedule with my project, I don’t know how much reading I will be able to get done but my goal is to get a book read a month.
Another small little goal is to get one short story written a month. It’s a small goal and kinda on the vague side but I really think that if I can write one short story a month it will be good. They don’t have to be the next best thing but just to get in the habit of writing anything and work on forming plots will be great for me to do! Maybe I will even share and maybe send them off to get published! Once more, I will keep you guys updated on how that goes!
On top of all of this, I really want to go to back to school. I just had graduated in May with a diploma in nursing but I feel that writing is my true passion and something that I have to use and enjoy. I have a few schools in mind and already have the gears in motion for that route. So the overall goal for my schooling is to get a school picked out and start attending by the end of the year.
Now time for my blog goals. I have deeply enjoyed working with this blog. It is a great outlet for me to great some writing out there with the world. So I have decided to focus a lot more on my blog. The first thing I want to do is to have at least one blog post a week but hopefully two a week. The topics will vary from updates about me and my writing but also about how-to’s about writing and other things I know about. (I am also thinking of helping my husband with his tech business with blogging and content building.) Also, I need to work of building readership and increase my page view count. If I can turn my blog into a resource for people – beginning authors– that would be a dream come true. I am also going to refresh how my blog looks like and refresh my widgets that seem to clutter my blog. So stay tuned for the changes. I hopefully will have the blog all looking pretty by the end of January but I’m thinking sooner.
One more little thing I want to work on this year is on my freelancing opportunities. I signed up for Elance in December but I haven’t finished my profile completely and I haven’t gotten all the samples I have looking all delicious. So I am going to work on making my profile look amazing and start trying to get work through there!
Okay, so I have shared my new resolutions with you, what about yours? Please share bellow. I would love to hear from you! Until next time, keep your head up, it gets better. J

Goals Goals Goals

This will be one of a few posts I put up today. So you have been warned.
Its the last day of 2013. So there will be a lot announcements about people wanting to better themselves and that this year will be the year for people to improve themselves or do what they always wanted or make other self-oriented goals. I will admit, I will be on that bandwagon but not for the same reasons as other people.
I am a strong believer in writing things down. It creates a connection and – indirectly – puts it in stone. And when I say it, I mean anything you write down. Your brain remembers things better when more than just one process is involved.  When you write down your goals, you remember what words you wrote but you also remember the actual action of writing down those words down. Also, another benefit of writing your goal down is it makes it more real. It makes it more concrete. The left side of your brain will love this. It is now given structure and a deadline. The right brain may not be completely happy but it now has something to create. For me, I tent to write my goals down and then post them (to a blog or to a social media site).  It’s not for the attention but it to remind myself that once I post it, others will have seen it and in the back of my mind that makes me have to follow through with it.  Even though no one may have read it, it is out to the world and makes me feel that I achieve what I wrote.  Not everyone does this, but for me, it helps.
Keep in mind that when you go to write down your goal, there are a few things that you need to remember.  First off, make sure your goals are reasonable.  Make sure that the goal you want to achieve is something that is important to you.  Just as important, be specific.  Do not just put ‘run a mile’.  It’s too broad and almost sets you up for failure.  On top of that, know your limitations.  Do not put down “go skydiving” when you are scared of looking out a second story window. Be logical. If sometime in the future you want to skydive but you really can’t bring yourself to even look out a second story window maybe that will be your goal.  Maybe you will be able to look that window and maybe you will look out the third story window as well.  That brings me to my next point, you have to set (a realistic) deadline.  This will be when you want to get this done.  Again, be reasonable and understand that Rome wasn’t built in a day.
I could go on and on about goal writing but I will leave you with these little guidelines.

So, now that I have shared these few steps with you, I will post my year goals using the advice I just shared with you. Enjoy and stay tuned!  🙂 

FINALLY! An idea!

Okay, so yesterday I posted about trying to find an idea for a novel that I could write about for NaNoWriMo.  Well, I got an idea and it’s freaking awesome.  It is a little complicated but I just need to work on the plot and stuff like that and I think I can make it work.  I still have some some details to workout.
On top of that, I work up so some sort of nasty head cold.  That makes thinking even harder for me…  ‘Cuz thinking tends to be a weak spot for me. Just kidding.  As you haven’t already realized, I’m kinda odd.  Like odd being the mildest thing that I can think of describing myself.
Anyway, back to my plot thing.  I’m like super happy about this. I love the how plotting process, I know I’m kinda odd but it’s so much fun.  I mean really anything is possible during this stage of the game.  I get to know who the characters are; get to know where they live; what their past is and most of all, I can craft the events that are going to change them.  I get to create what happens and what (I hope) a reader will enjoy.  So, I’m pretty happy.
So I’m going to go get some writing done.  Enjoy!

Got time?

               So a lot of things have changed since my last post that was just a few days ago.  It is just crazy how fast things can flip around.  I am amazed that I didn’t get whiplash.  It is a very strange thing, and for people who know me, I am very strange.  I feel like I am on the edge of a mental breakdown but I can’t be weak and give up.  I need to push through this.  This is not me; I don’t like giving up.  I pushed through nursing school and mastered it; I can do the same thing here.  I am trying to do a balancing act with my life.  It is currently between my husband having a job, me having a second job and the rest of how I want to spend my time. My husband is currently on a tightrope about having a job or not.  Either way he falls leads to disaster or if he makes it through this, he will be unhappy and shit rolls downhill fast. I am trying to balance a second job but it is failing horribly because when I go to do this second job; no one knew anything about it.  It made me feel like a jackass.  It was pretty bad.  On top of all that is a balancing act about what to do with the time I have left over between my writing and spending time with my family.  I can do this.  I can do anything, I survived nursing school.

            My husband got in an accident at his current place of employment just before Labor Day.  So right now, he is suspended, but be truthful, this isn’t the first time.  It is a bit of a problem but like the times before that, we will just have to deal with and make it though it. It just feels like a slap in the face.  I don’t tend to let a lot of people in on whatever I am working on and once I do, I feel like that life takes the ground from under my feet and lets me fall into this pit of nothingness.  It hurts but I am going to have to use this pain to push me forward.  I just have to remember to use the pain to help me, not hurt me.  This is just a small roadblock and I will kick its ass.
Okay, end of the personal rant.  Let’s get to something with a little ‘matter’.
           
           I have read a lot of books.  Anything with words in it, I have read it.  I have read all sort of fiction novels, a lot of textbooks, and a lot of books about writing.  (Also, I have read a lot of magazines about writing but that is another topic for another day.)  One of the major things that people say about writing is it is just about sitting down and getting words down on paper or on the screen.  Many of those people say that you have to get passed that interior editor that pretty much everyone has.  For me, writing has about two big problems.  The first is the one I just spoke about.  The second one is time.  It is really a hard to find time to get those words on the paper or on the screen.  Not everyone is a full time writer and for the ones that have to still hold down a full time job to pay the bills. It’s even harder to find time to just write. Time is so important and so many people seem to forget about it.  People worry about their jobs or their money.  Something that I learned from a cousin of mine is that a person can make more money, just not more time.  Time never ‘refills’ itself.   It is something important to keep in mind.

           For me, it came down to what was more important for me and ‘my time’.  I cut out most of the excess TV time.  I cut out a huge chunk of my video game play time.  For school, I have decided to take this semester off (since I have been a full time student since fall 2010)  I have to maintain about 35 hours a week at work to be able to float by.  (I am really hoping that my husband and his job stuff work out so I don’t have to pick more hours or another part-time job.) But I have added a few things for me to do. I have added a little more time to get more reading done.  Plus I am going to be working up to be adding about two hours a day for just writing (for both my current project, my ‘ideas’ and my blog).

That’s right, I have added this lovely blog which will serve more than just one purpose. It will keep me committed to what I have ‘announced’.  Also, it will give me a place to voice my opinions about stuff and maybe give advice about stuff that I found to work.  And at one point, I will edit some of my old school papers and post it here and share them with the world.  *cue the evil laughter*  Okay, so back to reality.  So enjoy.  Until next time.  Have fun!  

Goal Statement

Someone once told me that if you write your goal down, it becomes more ‘real’.  I have tried this one before but failed horribly at it.  I was in the middle of nursing school and was trying to hold down a full time job, a new husband, and a new house.  So here I am trying this, and this time, I will get this achieved!  I will get this done, so here is my goal statement.  I will share more about me later!

My goal is to become a published author.  The first step of this process is to complete the first draft of my current “Untitled Project” by October 31, 2013.  I will take the month of November off from this project and I will partake in NANOWRIMO.  Then, my January 31, 2014, I will aim to have my second draft completed.  At this point I am going to reach out to some of my trusted friends to read my manuscript for grammar and plot problems. Hopefully, with their input, I will be able to begin my third draft and have that draft completed by the end of April 2014.  One last proofreading (possibly by a professional) will hopefully be completed by the end of May 2014.  Once I have a polished and ‘finished’ manuscript, I will start to send it out to different publishing houses (to where and how many different publishes will require research).  By the end of December 31, 2014, if my novel is not picked up or rejected by all the publishers, at this time I will look into self-publishing (which will be reached during the waiting period).  Hopefully (pending saving and more research) I will have my novel published by June 2015.

            As I am working on the project, I am going to start and maintain a blog about my journey through this, working on a project, updates about my project, my thoughts and daily life.  It will be the beginning for my platform.  

I hope you enjoy the ride.  🙂