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Happy New Year!

Happy New Year!
Happy New Year!

So it has been a while.  Things have been moving at light speed and does not look like it is going to slow down!

I just wanted to say happy New Year! And that there new things that are going to be happening!

I hope you are able to achieve your goals this year!

Until next time, Steph.

Ten Ways to be a Horrible Stay at Home Parent

Ten Ways to be a Horrible Stay at Home Parent

Being a stay at home parent is a challenge. No ands, ifs, or butts about it.  Doesn’t matter if you are a male or female, either way you look at it, you’ll be doing it wrong. So, let’s cut to the chase and go over the ten reasons why you are a horrible stay at home parent.

  1. You’re female.

    Just because you gave birth to the tiny army that you are now watching over, doesn’t mean you should be watching those little monsters. Why stay home and make your husband go out into the world and work hard for you and those children that came out of you? How could you do that to him? Now he has to go out and work all by himself. He gets to have singular thoughts and is able to work on one task at a time without little voices reminding him they haven’t eaten in five minutes. How dare you make him be an adult?

  2. You’re male.

    Just because you donated some sperm, doesn’t mean you should be able to take it easy! You are the man, the leader of your little home made army. Men are supposed to be out there making money and bringing home the bacon – not cooking it.  Women can’t make more money than you and then make you become the house bitch. Don’t you know that doing the dishes is a woman’s job?

  3. You stay home.

    What are you doing? You are supposed to be out there making money dealing with other adults trying to make money as well. Why would you want to be at home? You have bills to pay. And you have to pay childcare bills. So, get to work to bring home like 60 extra bucks each paycheck!

  4. Your house isn’t spotless.

    You are home all day, why is your house so dirty and cluttered?  You are home all day. The reason you are home all day is to take care of the house. To take care of the house, you need to keep it clean! That is your job. Your house looks like it could be on Hoarders! Get to work.

  5. Your house is spotless.

    Why is your house so clean? You have children at home that need your attention. Why are you so focused on having a clean house? Children make messes. Just make sure your house doesn’t look like a house on Hoarders!

  6. You haven’t been on Facebook

    . Didn’t you see that Tammy Sue is having a jewelry party this Friday? Did you see that Mark Zuckerberg is donating a crazy amount of money to something? Did you see what she posted?

  7. You have been on Facebook.

     I can’t believe you have been on your phone!  You need to focus on your children and get that house clean. In my time, we didn’t have phones to distract us.  You don’t have time to play on Facebook.  Now get focused on your children and off your phone.
  8. You haven’t posted about your children.

     Are they still alive? What are they wearing?  Do you still have children? Why don’t you share more about them?

  9. You have posted about your children.

     Don’t you think you post enough pictures of your children?  That is all you post about!  Aren’t you worried that those pictures are going to get into the wrong hands?  We don’t need to know everything they do.  Don’t you have other things to do?

  10. You are worried about what others think about you and the choices you make for your family.

      This is the biggest mistake I have seen with so many people.  They worry about what other people think and over stress themselves about what they think needs to be done for you and your children.  Are they in your shoes and do they handle the day to day business for your family?  What bills are they paying?  I am going to go out on a limb and say no, they aren’t paying any bills for you or handling any of you business.  Either way, as long as your children are healthy, feed and as happy as they can be, you are doing a great job.

Life with children is difficult.  No two children are the same – even within the same household.  There is no cookie cutter plan for every family.  Do your best, be better than you were yesterday and remember that no one is perfect! Stop listening to all the ‘you shoulds’ and enjoy the short time you have with your children the best way YOU see fit!

 

– Until next time

Five Signs You Are A Creative Person

Five Signs You Are A Creative Person

You dream in vivid color.

You often are caught staring out the window.

You struggle with knowing who you are.

If you nodded your head to any of these statements above, there is a chance you might be creative. But how do you really know if you are creative? Is there a test? Do you have to take a class? Can you read a book?  Well, no. It’s not that easy. To paraphrase Bob Marley, nothing worth doing is easy and if it’s easy, it’s not worth doing.

So take a moment, take a deep breath and read. If any of these traits click with you, there is a strong chance you are a creative person.

1. You have high energy but you are often quiet or at rest.

This seems like a contradiction (but just wait ’till you get further down). I can assure this in not the case. Creative people are often able to long hours on projects and not feel tired but full of energy. Their passion is what keeps them going (and a little bit of caffeine). Novelists work months on one project. Painters can work 48 hours straight on making sure the hair comes out just right. These are quiet actives but use lots of energy.

2. You often battle between two extremes.

Real vs fantasy
Extroverted vs introverted
Humble vs proud
Passionate vs objective
Rebellious vs conservative
Creative people are not simple people. Labels are not easily placed on them. People with a creative flair are often daydreaming but often it’s for a purpose. They need to dream up an upcoming scene in their masterpiece or they are trying to figure out how warp drive would work. They are out going about their art but often are hard to speak to in the grocery store. They humble to learn new information about their craft but (once in a while) too proud to see a fatal flaw in their painting. Living with two extremes is just a way of life for a creative person.

3. You risk having a higher chance of getting depression.

Regrettable, creativity often requires alone time. Lots of it. Being so isolated for long periods of time often increases the risk of depression. Not interacting with others (being human or animal) reduces interactions and reduces your emotional well-being. Humans evolved to interact with each other and when that is cut off, depression can creep in. So a word to the wise, remember to schedule in time to interact with others.

Another issue that increases depression is an extreme need for perfection. Artist, writers, musicians and other people in the creative world often hold themselves to high standards. Always having high standards and not always meeting those standard sometimes leave to the feeling of not being good enough or being a truly creative person.

4. You work hours that not everyone else works.

Creative people often work when it works for them verse working nine to five. This means they work early in the morning before everyone else is awake or long night hours after everyone is asleep. They often loose track of time and get lost in their work. This means they might start Monday and end Tuesday morning when their muse is truly singing to them. Other times they might only work for five minutes and call it a day. They often find a pattern that works best for them.

5. You step into the unknown.

Yes you! You took the time to look up creative people and their traits. This is just the first step to following your passion. Sometimes just acknowledging that you aren’t quite like the rest of people is following your passion. Once you acknowledge that, you can break away from the path and create your path. Stepping out into the unknown is a very common trait of the creative person and one that is crucial to creativity.

Consequently, do you feel like you are a creative person? Not all these traits apply to everyone. Hopefully, you might have felt a connection to one of these traits. Maybe know you know a little bit more about whether you are a creative person or not!

References –

http://expanded–consciousness.blogspot.nl/2013/12/10-paradoxical-traits-of-creative-people.html
https://www.psychologytoday.com/articles/199607/the-creative-personality
http://www.medicaldaily.com/what-genius-looks-common-traits-worlds-smartest-and-most-creative-284698
http://www.womenonbusiness.com/5-signs-you-are-a-creative-person/
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/03/04/creativity-habits_n_4859769.html

New Face; New Words

New Face; New Words
New Face; New Words

Well hello all!  It’s been a long time since I have been able to update.  Things in my personal life have kept me away but now I have been able to return!  It’s Return of the Steph!  Did you miss me?

Well, as you can tell, I have updated the site’s look.  I feel it’s a nice upgrade!  What do you think?

I’ve also updated my ‘about me’ page.  Please check it out here.  There are a few cute little girls on the page, but I’m a little partial.

Be on the look out, I will be posting about once a week!  I’ll see you soon!

Until next time!

In like a lion, out like a lamb…

In like a lion, out like a lamb…

That’s how March is often described as; it’s how I grew up remembering it. I lived on the East coast and I would hear it a lot. Every March first, the teacher would change the hearts and set up the lions and lambs.

Either way, March is almost always known to be a transitional month. Let’s just say that it is true for me this month!

Last month was pretty busy for me. A lot of things had been going on. Doctor appointments, babysitting a little more, so many school events and birthdays. Somewhere I once I read that February was the least popular month for birthdays. I don’t think that person ever met my family. My older cousin’s two oldest kids have birthday’s in February, my sister in law, myself and my mother in law all have birthdays. My sister in law’s, mine and my mother in law’s are all within a week – 20th, 23rd, and the 26th respectively. That is why we are always broke in February. Also, at the end of the month, my tiny terror came down with hand, foot and mouth disease. She’s been a little whiny but for the most part, she is doing well and seems to be healing well.

Anyway, on the writing front, I got close to nothing was done. It’s a bummer but it happens. But we have a new month and it means a new chance to get things done. So I am working on writing up some goals for me and for me to stick to. But overall, there are a few things that I am going to be working on!

The few things I am working on are:

  • working on creating content for this blog. I have done a few guest blogging but I haven’t done much for my baby. So that is my current goal. I got ideas, outlines and first drafts in the works
  • Short stories – I have a few short stories cooking on the stove at the moment. One is for the anthology I am partaking in. A few others one I am working on are for contests that I am hoping into entering into. (One of them is the Writer’s Digest annual contest). I will be writing, plotting and editing those bad boys within the month. (But not in that order. : -P )
  • I am also going to be working on replotting my sci-fi project that I had started last year and had worked on through two Camp NaNoWriMos and NaNoWriMo! I have the skeleton of the plot but I still need to work on it. My goal is to write the second draft during April’s Camp NaNoWriMo! (I’ll update you more on that fun challenge!)

Well, for the moment I think that is all. I have a lot of behind the scenes stuff to work on and I will try my best to keep you guys updated. I also have some interesting stuff to talk to you guys about as well! I promise, please keep your eyes open, it will be worth it!

Until next time…

Happy Birthday – TO ME!

Happy Birthday – TO ME!
Happy Birthday – TO ME!

Today is my birthday!  I just thought I would share! I’m a big 26! 🙂

So if you want to do something nice for me on my birthday, share my blog and tell your freidns to check me out!  It would make my day!

I’ll be back soon with lots of new stuff so please keep your eyes open!  (I know I have said this before but I promise I have lots of good stuff!)  🙂

So, happy birthday to me!

Until next time!

Big plans on the horizon

Big plans on the horizon
Big plans on the horizon

Like I have said before in other posts, I have big things planned for this site. At the moment, a lot of everything is going on in the background. So, unless you live in my head, you can’t see much of anything. As a result, today I will share a little with what is going on in my head. I am going to try my best not to confuse you and not have you become lost in my head along the way.

First thing is first, my current short term goal at the moment (for the blog) is for the next six weeks, I am going to post something once a week. After the six weeks (and after six more postings) I am going to add another post a week. At the moment, I haven’t decided on the topics but my goal right now if to just get back into the habit of posting again! So be on the lookout for that!

Also, on my plate is a short story I am going to write and publish in an anthology I am partaking in. I will keep you guys updated on that. At the moment, I am still plotting out the basic story line and research more about short stories.

Another thing on my plate is my science fiction WIP (work in progress) that I worked on during Camp NaNoWriMo and NaNoWriMo. I am working on editing it! I am completely reworking the plot but I will completely discuss all that in another blog post in great detail! I even have a book to share with you! 🙂 Be on the look out for that!

On top of all my writing goals, I have a family that I have to keep alive and a house to keep clean, so be on the lookout for posts about that stuff!

Well, I think that is all for me at the moment! 🙂 I will talk to you guys later! In the meanwhile, leave a comment below on what you have been doing recently! I would love to know what you guys have been up to!

Until next time…

 

Halloween Love

Halloween Love

For those who might not know, I love Halloween!  I know, it’s totally a ‘white girl thing’ but I just love Halloween! 🙂 So, I thought that I would share a few pictures of some of my Halloween stuff! 🙂  This is just the tip of the iceberg! So enjoy!

wpid-20151004_200653.jpg My blow up guys!  🙂

wpid-20151004_224315.jpg Candy Corn lights! 🙂

wpid-20151004_224224.jpg  They are watching you! 🙂

wpid-20151004_224156.jpg This is inside of the wall of my Writing Corner.

There will be more as we get closer to Halloween but for now, I thought I would share! 🙂

Until next time..

Drawing up Blanks

Drawing up Blanks
Drawing up Blanks

I’m drawing up blanks… It’s very rare that I can’t think of anything to blog about. I often can blink and come up with a new idea….

Not today, I’m drawing up blanks…

Maybe it’s because I woke an hour earlier and I have been trying to get as much done before my daughter wakes up! But I’ve tried this before… I was able to get some stuff done.

Today I am just drawing up blanks…

My blog has been going so well this month and I am scared that it might not last… But I have felt like this before and it hasn’t brother much…

Today I am drawing up blanks…

I have a lot of great posts coming up with some much great info and great (and helpful stuff). I can’t wait to share it with you guys!

But today I am drawing a blank…

It could be the rain… Nah, I love the rain! It’s so peaceful and I get so many ideas from it…

Blank… That is all that is in my head.

I don’t know about you guys, but I am kinda enjoying the blanks… I’m not so worried and I am able to just breathe. Sometime being a creative person and always coming up with creative idea takes a toll on your body and mind.

Today, I’m okay with drawing up blanks!

Until next time….

The Usefulness of Binders.

The Usefulness of Binders.
The Usefulness of Binders.

This writing Wednesday, I thought I would talk about my love of binders!  I love binders! They are just so useful!

Binders can be used in many different ways.  All lot of us remember having a binder or two during our school days.  Remember the teacher always showing us how to organize it?  Here are a few ways I use binders from my everyday life to my writing adventures!

One of my many binders I have, is a binder filled with notebook paper.  I use this one for free-writes, and brain dumps.  Sometimes staring at the screen doesn’t work or when my daughter is awake and I don’t want her to think I live at the computer, I pick up a pen and write!  And a few people out there are sighing to themselves thinking you know a notebook would work the same.  You are right, a notebook would work the same but I like to add things to my binders.  For example, if I find a great article of a funny picture, I would print it out and then hole punch it.  Then I add it to my binder!  And as any great writer knows, always carry a pen and paper with you.  For this I have a little memo pad that can clip into my notebook.  (We not at the moment. I am using a really girly one and it doesn’t have a hole at the top for adding a memo pad!)

Another binder I have is for my blog stuff.  I have really rough drafts of post written down on paper.  I have a personal goal statement for my blog (and something I don’t often share).  It also has articles I found online that I have printed out and added to it too.  And I often have a blog to-do list of up coming posts and things of that nature.  I also have a hard copy of my calendar of my posts at the beginning of my binders.  (I print my calendars out from here!) I have a very flexible plan of what I am going to post for the month.

On top of all that, I also have a plotting binder.  This is where I break down scene by scene of my novel.  Each scene is on a piece of paper.  On each piece of paper there is the characters involved in the scene, the goal of the scene and a brief outline of the scene.   All the scene go into one section.  Plus, with binders, you can rearrange the scenes (the pages) to your liking or what fits the plot.  Can you do that with a notebook?  Then I have another section for my characters.  Like for the scenes, each character gets a page. On each character page I list of their status, characteristics and any key information for them.  And sometimes, I place a plot point or a surprise here as well. (So I don’t often share what’s in this binder!)  A third section for any research I have done, any images that inspired me, notes for the plot and other tidbits.  To be honest, since I got Scrivener (I have a link to it on my sharing page) I haven’t used this set up for a while but I feel like I should still share it with others especially if you don’t have that program or any extra cash to buy it.

The other use for binders is for editing.  This is more aimed more for the novel length writers who need to edit their drafts.  I am more old school and I like to work with the paper (and I get a lot of paper-cuts!)  And I get my red pen out (or another bright colored pen) and start looking for things to fix.  But since I haven’t gotten to the stage just yet with my current project, I will just leave this for you guys’ pleasure!  (I have edited other projects, but I would rather not talk about those edits…)

Overall, I love binders. They are is very useful and so flexible!  Do you find binders as useful as I do? Tell me below!

Until next time…