For those who might not know, I love Halloween! I know, it’s totally a ‘white girl thing’ but I just love Halloween! 🙂 So, I thought that I would share a few pictures of some of my Halloween stuff! 🙂 This is just the tip of the iceberg! So enjoy!
Hello! So this is two days late! My husband had a rare day off and we decided to do a lot of house cleaning! Oh, the joys of adulthood!
Okay, so like I said is my last post, I told you that I was nominated twice in the same day! This is the second nomination. I was nominated by Daisy in the Willows from this post of hers! 🙂
So without more words, here are her questions for me!
What is your guilty food pleasure? Chocolate… Pretty much an form of it will work… But It can’t have strawberries! (I’m highly allergic to them!)
what was your favourite child hood game (doesn’t have to be a board game) My favorite game was Legend of Zelda: Ocarina of Time.
If you could rename yourself what would you call yourself and why? I don’t think I would change me name. I’ve grown to like my name. I will admit, sometimes I thought about changing my name to Samantha, people seem to think that is my name already!
What was the last lie you told? “No, it wasn’t me that ate all the chocolate.” I told my husband this last night. Then we both laughed.
What is the best compliment you have ever received? ‘Your writing has encouraged me to work on my own writing.
What historic event would you like to have been present at? Oh, man; as a history buff there are so many events I would love to been at, overall, I think I would want to be at Stonehenge while it was being built! I could answer so many questions for people! 🙂
How would you start a conversation with a stranger? To be honest, nope. I am not a small talk kind of person. I don’t often start the conversation with people and if I do, it tends to a conversation about something they don’t understand and then they slowly walk away…
What is the strangest thing you have eaten? Chocolate covered grasshoppers… So, I’ll eat anything that has chocolate!
what quality/qualities make a friend a keeper? For the most part, the most important quality for a friend for me is compassion. I can’t stand someone who lacks this basic quality. I might be apathetic about somethings but when it comes to starving children and how easy we could give them food, I struggle when someone tells me that their parents should just get a job. Like, they are humans, show some love!
Is there a word that you love using all the time or/and a word you hate hearing or using? I don’t know. I am a lover of more words and I really don’t have a word that I hate hearing. I don’t like hearing people being called names or being abused. That is about it, I think.
If money was no option what would you do for your next birthday ? For me? My birthday? I would love to pay off my in-laws debts. They have done so much for my husband and me and I would love to pay them back somehow.
Now, my question to the people tagged:
What is your favorite color?
What is one room in your dream house you would love to have right now?
What are you currently reading?
Where do you get the ideas for your blog posts?
What is the best advice you can give your fellow bloggers about how to get new subscribers?
Do you belong to any writers’ or bloggers’ associations and, if so, which ones?
Who is your favorite musician?
What is something people would be surprised to know about you?
Who is your dream dinner party guest?
Where do you see yourself in 50 years?
What does a normal day in your life look like?
Okay now for the eleven people to do these questions! 🙂
I was nominated twice today with in hours of each other… I must be so popular! 😛
The first time I was nominated by Francesca from this post. So go check it out! 🙂
The rules :
Okay, so I will get started with the questions!
What inspires you as a blogger?
I love to write, so for me, my writing inspires me as a blogger. 🙂
Who do you blog for?
I blog for myself first and foremost. I write the way I like to read. I also blog for all the people trying to balance out life and the call of writing. I feel that there is an opening in the blogging wold for people in this boat. 🙂
Who or what is your favourite book/ tv/ film character?
Oh man, you are asking to pick one? Or one of each?
Book – Cloud Atlas by David Mitchell
Tv – Star Trek: The Next Generation and Firefly
Film Character : Jack the Pumpkin King.
If you could choose to have a super power, what would it be and why?
I would choose the ability to live off of an hour of sleep. I can get like 100% more done a day. And I could get more writing done as well!
What was the last book you read?
Well, this going to be complicated. Since high school, I can’t just read one book at a time. But the most finished book was 30 Minute Social Media Marketing by Susan Gunelius. (If you look over to the side, you can see what I am currently reading form Goodreads. 😀
What was the last film you watched?
Does the baby channel count? lol Actually it was Nightmare Before Christmas.
What was your childhood fear? Has it changed?
My childhood fear? Well, I had a few my biggest was being unloved or forgotten. Sadly it’s still a fear of mine but I know that I am loved. Even if I don’t always believe it.
Recommend a song to me
Gah, I have so many I could suggest for you! But right off hand, https://open.spotify.com/track/38bvPJSOyo5fQ1ARnLp8II
My Imagination by John Legend
Tell me an inspirational quote.
Right here. It’s one of my favorites! 🙂 Words to live by!
How much does this nomination mean to you?
It’s a very nice gesture! I appreciate that people read my blog and like what I am saying! Thank you! 🙂
What would you do if you won £1,000,000?
Well, for me, that would translate to about $1,550,375. First and foremost, I would buy a house for my husband and I and pay for like five years worth of taxes! Then I will pay off all of our bills and then all his parent’s bills! After that, and depending on what is left, I will use that money to live off of and continue to work on my writing! 🙂 And I might take a trip!
Okay so now it’s my turn to make up some questions… Boy, I’m gonna run out of questions soon!
Who are you in five words or less! (Can you think of just five words to describe yourself?)
What makes you smile?
If you have some spare time, what do you do?
Who is a hero in your life?
Are you a planner? Or are you spontaneous?
What is your favorite season of the year?
What is your most prized possession?
What single quality do you most appreciate in people?
Who is your favorite fictional character?
What is your favorite quote and by whom?
Any advice you would like to share with others?
Okay, so I think that’s about it for this post… Oh and I have to tag people! Okay, let me get that done! 🙂
Alright. When I get a little more time, I will fix up the URL’s but for the time being I think you know the rule! So enjoy! 🙂
As a few of may have guessed, I do not have much of a relationship with my mother. She often told be as I was growing up and she didn’t want me because I’m a girl. She only wanted my brother. On top of that, she often tried to leave me places and tried to change the locks (only to fail since she was too lazy to get it right.) I haven’t said much about my father since, it’s a bit of a sore subject. Let me explain.
My father left when I was three. My brother and I had every other weekend visits with him until I was twelve. It actually my favorite time since my step-mum was goofy but so nice and sweet. A totally different woman than my mother. We would paint and draw and play outside, all depending how my father was feeling. He was in Vietnam and had PTSD. Little things would tick him off and often it cam out on my or my brother (or my step-mum or siblings). We had to walk on eggshells around him. I’m not going to lie, I was his favorite and I got to stay and watch Star Trek when I was with him.
Then we stopped seeing him when I was twelve; his car broke down, his relationship with my step-mum crashed and burned and then two years later he moved to Florida. I never really got close to him. And I struggled with that for most of my life. I had two parents who had their own problems and I was forgotten in the mix. This made my teenage years difficult. (There were other problems too but I will hold back on that stuff here).
As I got older, I started to realize that life was not going to be easy for me and that I can’t just sit in self pity. If I wanted life to be worth something, I needed to break away from the jealously and anger I had for life and I had to make it better.
I lost my father this past July. We hadn’t spoke for over a year before that. I felt so guilty about it but I knew my father, He had stopped talking to me in his own way of protecting me. He didn’t want me to know how sick he was. I still struggle with it but I know that now he is at peace and isn’t fighting the world. So I can take peace in that.
Also, I got to connect with my grandmother and aunt who I really never knew. So that is another win, if you view it that way. It is so great to get to know them.
The biggest thing for me as I raise my daughter is to make sure she knows that she is loved – even if I can’t always tell her. I grew up with parents who had other things on their plates (for my father) I’m not mad. Now that I am an adult, I understand that his part he tried. He wasn’t perfect. But I am glad for those times of shinning brightness that broke through the clouds of my childhood. I don’t want my daughter to miss those bright spots. So I am going to try my best to show her the brightness!
So, enough with the past, now on to the future and meeting new people! 🙂
Everyone has goals – no two people have the same goals. On top of that, no one has just three goals. I mean, I don’t. I have goals for thins blog, my career goals, writing goals, family goals and other goals. I really struggled with just listing three goals. But I did and I listed a few steps that I plan on taking to achieve these goals. So, without more blabbing, here they are à
One – I want to become a published author within a year time. But, I know that isn’t just going to happen so I am going to get the ball rolling and get as close as possible than I am now! The first thing I need to do is actually getting the words written EVERYDAY. You can’t have a book without first writing the words down first. It’s important that I learn all about the joys of self-editing (and looking for beta readers and editors!). After that I must learn all the ins and outs of querying. This doesn’t mean I start while I finish writing; matter of fact, I am slowing starting to learn about the topics I spoke about, but they are not front and center. My writing is. Also, I really want to get my eBook written and share it with the masses! But that is another goal for another day. 😀
Two – I want to create amazing content for my followers (I will take more about my followers in a few!) I want to create a resource for beginning writers who might me scared to take the first step. I want to achieve this in three ways.
I want to create a weekly series of interviewing other writers and blogger on how they started and how they handle balancing life and the call to write! I am hoping to get this started by the end of the month!
I am going to do a weekly wrap up of what I have done and then a monthly wrap up. In the monthly wrap up post I am going to outline what my goals are for the next month and what to look for as well.
Another series I would love to create is one all about writing tips and how to make money with your skills of writing! This I haven’t fully fleshed out but I am hoping by the beginning of next year to have this up and read for my followers!
Also, I have a few other ideas that I am thinking about adding are, virtual write-ins, video interviews, and a writing forum.
Three – I would LOVE to increase the number of followers. I want a strong sense of community for my followers. I know it will not happen overnight and I will need the help from my followers! But I am hoping to get close to 100 followers by the end of December. I am going to keep creating amazing content about writing and how to balance life and I am going to strongly follow the 80/20 rule (80% interacting and socialized and 20% self-promotion!)
Well, what do you think? Do you think I can achieve these? I have most of these written down in my goal notebook and greater detail but I didn’t want to bore you guys with all the details!
Today’s Writing 101 assignment is all about where the magic happens – in other words, where the writing happens! I love sharing about my writing space. (It also asks questions about writing habits, equipment and other things. I will get to that in a few!)
We had just moved into a new place and it had a sun room. It was dead space for us for quite a while but them we decided to create an amazing place for work to happen! It has become my favorite place in the house.
We have two desks, a corner desk and then a small glass top desk (that we have had forever!) It has become our work corner!
This is the main computer in the house: As you can tell, I have sticky notes all around the screen and I am never far from my notebook! 😀 We also have surround sound speakers that I like to use (I listen to classical or just instrumental soundtracks) when I am writing heavy or important screens!
The other half of our corner desk. This is where we keep pens, sticky notes, books, and other important stuff for life and writing! 🙂 (As you may have guessed, I use the desk more but my husband does use it to get his paperwork done for his work!)
We have had this desk for such a long time! It houses our (very) ancient laptop that I use when my husband needs to get some work done! If you take a look on the wall, you see a calendar. Keep this in mind, I will talk more about it later on! 🙂
On the other side of the room are my bookshelves! But I will go over those another day (and when my daughter hasn’t help rearrange them for the tenth time that day!)
What are your writing habits?
I am a strong believer of writing everyday. I am a 100% night owl and I get most of my great writing done after the needs of the house are done and asleep! I also keep an eye on my word count! I am a lover of NaNoWriMo on top of that all so I have high writing count goals with a short period of time. But this doesn’t work for everyone and I understand. I have had to train myself for this (and I am thinking of creating an eBook to share how I do it with others! Keep your eyes open!)
What equipment or supplies do you use to write?
Now I have a few different things that I use. First I tend to always have a three ringer binder with filler paper! I love these things. (I love all kinds of office supplies!) But I am a huge fan of binders (I use them for pretty much everything from brain storming to editing and showing off) But I think I will post about my love of binders in the future.
Once upon a time I used to be all about ‘handwriting’ all my stuff because that is what all the great have done… But they all lived before computers have taken front and center. So I do use the computer for about 95% of my writing. I use Word for a quick thought that I have before I can really work on them. For most part, (close to 90% of my writing) I use Scrivener. There is some much I can say about this program (and so many other writers agree with me!) But for the moment I will just say that is awesome and that you should go check it out! <3
What do you need and or want in a physical space?
Most important things to me, for my writing space, are a comforty chair, a solid working computer and a door. But I love to have a great sound system to blast off all my classical music and chocolate! Other than that, I am happy! 🙂
Now, before I go, I wanted to share something with you guys. Remember earlier in this post I told you to keep an eye on the calendar on the wall? Well, here is a close up to it. . This where I keep track of my word counts every day. You can click on the picture so you can see how many words I have gotten this month! (Sorry I have HORRIBLE handwriting.) But I strongly suggest that you do something like this. This works for me! I hate seeing zeros on there! Don’t worry the first month about getting high word counts; just worry about getting words on the page and then put how many you wrote. Then aim to write more!
Well, that’s all for me at the moment! Keep an eye out for more posts about what I talked about! 🙂
Writing is a very personal thing. No two writers write for the same reason. My reasons are different from the writer in the next blog over. No two people with write the same. So, why does someone write? Well, i can’t say why Bob writes, but I can tell you why I write.
To start off, like I have said many times before, I started writing while I was in eighth grade. I remember it clearly because we had a writing assignment. Normally I struggled with it because I wasn’t a big fan on writing. I didn’t get the point of it. But this assignment was different. It was a free write. The teacher told us to write about anything we wanted. Up until that point in my young life, I wanted to be a paleontologist. So I decided to write about dinosaurs; I wrote them finding out about humans (they were time traveling dinosaurs.) I turned it in on the due date and waited for my grade, My goal was to get at least a C and not fail. Instead, I was called to her office (even now as I rack my brain, I can’t remember her name but I can so clearly see her face and her cute little button nose). Fearing for the worst, I prepared for the principal to be there and everything else. But it was only her and me. I sat down and took a deep breath in. She smiled and told “I think you should study the art of writing.” Assuming she was referring to my poor grammar, I frowned. Another smile and the words, “You have a gift with words. Your paper made me laugh so much. I think you need to join our writing group.”
At twelve years old, I never thought about being a writer. I mean, yeah, I enjoyed English classed and I loved to read but how was I supposed to be able to write like writers do? Lo and behold, I learned how and I struggle when I can’t get any writing done.
The reason why I write is complicated, to say the least. I grew up in an abusive environment. My father for the most part was out of my life and I was a very depressed little girl. On top of that, I am one of the first classes in school that grew up with standardize testing and we always had to write that way. Since I was young I was taught to journal; to write down what I was feeling as a why to express myself. It had become second nature for most of my childhood but it was always for my therapist and me. It wasn’t until that moment that I realized that I could use that skill and turn it into something else.
I guess what I am trying to get at is, for me at least, writing is a way for me to express myself and open up in away that is comfortable for me. At the same time, writing has help me cope with things that I didn’t know how to handle. Writing helps me create things that let’s me entertain and amaze the world around me!
As I am typing this up, a tear rolls down my cheek. For me, writing is like breathing; if I can’t write, I die. A little dramatic but it’s true. I love to share writing with others. Some view writing as a lot of work. I enjoy every minute of it (even the days I want to pull my hair out). I won’t change it for the world.
Hello all, for all the new followers I am Steph! I am a fiery redhead with a strong love of words, chocolate, my daughter, my husband and more chocolate! I hope you enjoy your stay!
I am a full time hopeful writer and a full time stay at home mom. I have been writing since eighth grade and I have been blogging off on since I was in high school. I have finally decided to give this my full attention (well not full attention, I need to shower and go to the bathroom once in a while!)
I am here because I feel the need to share the way I handle writing and being a full time mom. I wish to share what I go through with the world! A lot of SAHM’s (and SAHD’s) get a lot of grief for ‘staying home and doing nothing.’ I am a stay at home mom with a husband that works at lot during the week and it’s hard just to handle things around the house with a very active almost one year old tiny terror! I’m not saying working parent’s have it any easier (far from it) but I feel like there is a void when it comes to writing and being a SAHP. So I hope to create a bridge to the two. Want to join me?
A few topics I hope you cover with this blog are: writing, motherhood, staying at home parenting; writing advice; NaNoWriMo stuff, DIY stuff and projects with the little ones, my current projects and I hope to add interviews with other people within the writing, publishing and parenthood communities! (If being interviewed is something you are interested in doing – and you love to write, are writing, a published author, a parent or you fit in more than one, contact me through one of these channels)
Other all, I just love to help others, if it’s with writing, dealing with problems or just being an ear to vent to (or an outlet to express yourself) and I hope that this blog will help you! I also love to connect with other writers! So go ahead, let’s be friends! 😀
For the moment, I think that is all. I hope you enjoy what you see! I hope to here from you soon!
I was nominated by Tracey to answer these ten questions! How did she know I love top ten questions?
After these ten questions, i have to make my own ten question and then nominate other bloggers! So be on the look out world!
Now without further ado…
1. What is your guilty pleasure?
My guilty pleasure? No be honest, I really don’t have one that is horrible. I just like to eat chocolate… so if you leave it out, i will eat it… so watch out! Other than that, there isn’t really anything i do that makes me feel guilty… Well… there is some music…. I’ll take about that later. 😀
2. When you go to the movies, do you go for action, comedy, drama… and why?
To be honest, I really don’t go to the movies very often. Between the money spent and the fact other people are there, I really just don’t enjoy it. I am a person who likes to take the whole movie in. I like to rewind and re-watch what just happened so I can understand what happened and try to guess what might happen next! An on top of that, I HATE wasting money on a horrible movie. But if I do go, nine times out of ten it’s a comedy, that’s the movie my husband and I go see. It’s a safer bet. 🙂
3. If you are an author… What would you like to say about your upcoming novel? Well, since I am still on my first draft, I will tell you this: it’s a sci-fi with a redhead as a lead. Why? Because we need more redheads as leads and not the villains (but not all villains are bad!) On top of that, we need more female leads (in all genres) that aren’t waiting for a man to save her… Wait, I was talking about my book, okay, sorry. It’s a sci-fi space opera. There’s a conspiracy but it’s space, what do you do when you are all alone? Who do you trust? Leading officers, best friends, people you grew up with? Hmmm… You will just have to wait to see! I did post a very rough sample of what I was writing here.
3a. If you are an avid reader … What book has you bouncing from foot to foot, as you wait for its release?
GAH! There are quite a bit to be excited… but there is just too many to list! But there is one…
4. What type of accent do you have, what type do you love to hear, and what type would you like to have if you could change your own???
Since I was born and raised in New England, I often forget to pronounce my ‘r’s but most of the time, I really don’t have an accent. I love the English accent and I love just listening to them speak but over all I really like them all. I don’t think I would change my own.
5. Where is your favorite past vacation spot, and where would you like to go before you die?
To be honest, I even really have been ‘on vacation.’ We either can’t afford it or just don’t have the time. But I love the beach and I miss it so much right now. (I’m in the middle of Nebraska at the moment.)
6. No matter if you are an author or not, what advice would you give to your favorite author?
DON’T GIVE UP! KEEP WRITING! 😀
7. If you could make everyone in the world answer one question, no holds bar and unfailingly honestly…. what would it be?
I really don’t know. Maybe if they wanted to be beta readers or if they even liked what I wrote. EEEKKKK! I don’t know if I want the know the answer to that last question! :O
8. What is your spirit animal?
I have no clue. But this might help…
9. Do you do anything similar (and guys, we will call it a man-purse, or just always available in your truck 😛 ) And do you have a favorite pen? Nine times out of ten, yes, I always have pens and paper with me. You never know when an idea will hit you upside the back of the head and beat you down until you jot it down. I also try to keep my cell phone handy to take down the idea too. But with a young child at home, I try not to be glued to my phone. 🙂 Here is what is often in my bag…
10. And last but not least, describe your craziest life experience.
Oh man, there are so many.. My whole life is a crazy experience. I grew up with crazy. I think hands down, there was one that just was crazier than the rest. My mother has hated me my whole life (I spent most of my time with my grandparents [which is another can of worms].) There was one time I had come home from school and the door was locked. It wasn’t terribly abnormal, but I could hear my mother was home so I shouted for her open up and let me in. She then faked an accent and said that no one was house and I had the wrong house. I just shook my head and pulled out my house key. I unlocked the door and walked in. My mother looks at me dead in the face and said “Aww fuck, I hope you had died or something.” Any normal eight might have cried but for me it was kinda nice for my mother to wish me a quick death. I know, I’m odd, I come from an odd family and you will just have to deal with it!
Okay, so now that I have answered those ten questions, now I need to make up my own ten questions! So here they are!
What is you favorite thing in the world? That one thing you can not live without?
Do you like books you can hold or ebooks?
Do you have a library card? If so, why not?
Do you participate in NaNoWriMo? If so, do you want to be friends? If not, WHY NOT?
What is your favorite color pair?
Do you sing in the shower?
What do you look for in blogs? What is your favorite blog? Do you care to share it?
Are you a morning person or a night owl?
DO you like to join an online writing group? Are you already part of one? Share it with me! 😀
YOU! The one that is reading this! Answer these questions and then let me know about it! 🙂
Okay, so that seems to be it for this blog post. I have a lot going on! I had signed up for Writing 101 and Blogging 101. So you might see a blog post daily (or even more than one a day! [kinda like today!].)
My house isn’t horrible but it’s not spotless either. It’s NO WHERE near a level of a hordes house (I grew up in one when I was a child). My mother often blamed me for the mess because I didn’t clean up after myself or anyone in the house. It had nothing to do with her keeping everything of my brother’s (and no, he didn’t die. He is still very much alive.) Or her lack of effort. I was the female unwanted child and it was my responsibility to keep the house clean. Do you know any seven year old how has to do that?
Anyway, I digress, but please do not come to my house. I have a adorable, destructive, sweet little eleven month old who is just being a kid. I don’t always feel like to picking everything she drops or throws. She is currently working on her hand-eye coordination and practicing dropping objects to watch where they go. She is learning what to do and how to do things. It might make me a horrible mother, but I would like to enjoy her while she is small.
On top of that, I am human too. There are days that I just don’t feel like doing anything. And I mean anything. I have had days that putting a bra on was going to kill me. Pants are only for going out to see other humans. But overall, I am human. I am not perfect and neither is my daughter (even through to me, she is.)
Also, I’m a writer. I’m a creative soul and sometimes cleaning helps me. Sometimes I am wrapped up in my creative thinking I forget about the rest of the world. There is a picture I have hanging on my fridge. It reads:
If you marry a creative person know that some days you’ll come home to a spotless house.
And some days…
1. Dinner will be forgotten
2. The kids will be in pjs
3. And it will look like you were robbed
Find a way to appreciate both because the second will happen much more often than the first.
This is just a statement of fact. I wish more people understood.
Either, you are welcome to my house if you understand the following and don’t mind the mess. If you don’t then I am going to release my daughter onto your house and maybe you will understand. 😀